I12's 6th grade graduation party was amusing. They had custom t-shirts for the kids and each one got a sharpie to sign each other's shirts. There was also the customary display of baby pictures for guessing who was who and they did a wonderful photo montage set to music of pictures of the kids and activities from school since they were in kindergarten. And finally, they had cake. Not just any cake, but one with each child's name on a piece so they got their own name from the cake, decorated in the school colors.
It was also a bit sad. I12 is my 'worrisome child'. He has always had delays in language and social skills. We took the leap and tried him on meds for his ADHD last year which has helped with his school work. I'm not so worried about him academically though, He's a bright kid, just inattentive (he is really ADD, without the H). What worries me is the social skills part. As all his classmates were running around, chatting and laughing and signing each other's shirts he stood there, not knowing what to do. I do so worry about how he will fare in junior high. He has very few friends his own age. He does have a few friends from the after school program but they are all a couple years younger than he is. We took him in for a full psych evaluation last fall, since I still think he falls somewhere on the autism spectrum but they didn't really tell us much. Part of the problem with the eval is that he does really well with adults, especially one on one so he was a shining star in the clinic, his problem is that he can't relate to kids his own age. We've tried to get him involved in activities to get him 'socialized' but haven't had much luck. He doesn't like sports- he would much rather spend time with a book or video game (his dad and I are the same way) and has different interests from most kids his age. He does like acting though, so I was going to look into some summer programs at our local rec center to see what I can find. I do hope that when he gets to junior high in the fall that he will find a group of similar kids who "don't quite fit" the normal mode and make some new friends. He's going to have several hundred new friends to choose from. I'm also hoping that he'll do some growing up over the summer- I think a little maturity will help.
Although, when I think about it, both V and I were 'misfits' in our schools when we were growing up. We both had few friends (and still have just a few close friends) but somehow managed to find each other.
How about all of you- did you feel like you were part of the 'in crowd' when you were young or were you one of the outsiders?