It has been a trying week at work. I've been struck by the number of women coming in who have reached their limit. Why is it, that as women, we are so good at taking care of everyone and everything else but lousy at taking care of ourselves?
Oh, I know- I'm sometimes guilty as charged. BUT... I know I take on too much sometimes and make sure that many of the things I take on are things that I get pleasure out of. Sadly, there are way too many people, women especially, who do everything for everyone else but nothing fun for themselves...
Like I said... it's been a rough week. Thankfully, not rough for me personally but rough professionally.
Unfortunately, that is so true. Women just try to make things run smoothly and in the midst of eveything, just wears down trying to keep the family running along at a happy pace. I think it's just a natural occurance...inborn...debbie
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure it's inborn so much as drilled into our heads as children. Oh, I'll give you that there is something instinctive about nurturing but we seem to take it to such an extreme.
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Hmmm, that's an interesting point. Reckon it's because we nurture our family, and that nurturing has no borders, no limit, no end point. For we do not perform a job, rather we have a lifelong commitment to taking care of (mainly) our families, but we can also stretch that to whosoever needs our help. We come at the end of the line, for we cannot allow ourselves to be weak - we are too busy being strong for others... :)
ReplyDeleteOh, I think your point about not allowing ourselves to be weak is a HUGE point. Even in the midst of chaos, why is it so hard to ask for help????
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Yep, it is just in our nature to take care of others. A God given quality. :) We do need to find time no matter what to take care of ourselves. We need ' ME time'. I know this it true because things have been crazy here, as you know. I am glad that I can come here to visit you and others and work on and post on my blog. :)
ReplyDeleteI have started a selling blog in case you didn't know. I did mention it before on my blog. LOL It has 6 followers already and it isn't even up and running. If you'd like to check it out here is the place. :) www.bearcountryprimitives.blogspot.com And all are welcome to stop by.
Have a great Friday and a wonderful weekend. Take care, Janet W
I think God needs to give us more sense sometimes, LOL! We do need to find time to care for ourselves. I like to think that I do a pretty good job of it, even when things are super busy. With the life we've chosen, I find joy and pleasure in things many people would find chores- like caring for the chickens or garden. Maybe it's a matter of perspective and when it becomes 'unfun' that's when we need to worry.
DeleteI did check out your primitives blog. I need to put up a sidebar link to my other blog that isn't really up and running yet either.
Judy
Its because most women need a good wife. LOL! I think we are just used to sacrificing a bit of ourselves here and a bit there for our families or work and then next thing you know, we crash.
ReplyDeleteLOL! I do think I need a good wife sometimes. Husbands can be high maintenance and clueless sometimes... but we love them! Sadly, many spouses are worse than clueless and/or high maintenance and maybe that's why so many women crash- that lack of support. I've had a whole stream of 'crashed' women this week at work (I work doing counseling on a psychiatric unit) which is what has brought on this fit of musing.
ReplyDeleteJudy
Very sad.
ReplyDeleteI can surely identify with this, lately it just amazes me that I haven't gone off the deep end! I don't even think it would help for the wife to have a good wife, they surely wouldn't do it the "right way" either LOL!
ReplyDeleteAh, that is where we need to work on giving up control. I struggle with this as well. I've finally (almost) reached the point where if it is done, it's done, even if it isn't how I would have done it. Like loading the dishwasher... I went through a period where the children would load the dishes and then I would 're-do' it before they got washed because they weren't loaded 'right'. LOL! Now, if they're clean- I'm happy!!
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