Ok, Warning- rant ahead... If you don't want to hear it, don't read.
I'm really, really trying to be gracious. I KNOW that V's mother is trying to be helpful, that she is out of her element and isn't able to do the things she normally does, is trying to 'earn her keep' while she is here, and that I should be grateful that she is still in our lives. I KNOW all of those things.
But she is driving me crazy. I may even have a drink tonight before bed- on a Tuesday! I have been trying for the past 4 days to give her tasks to do to keep her busy. Things that would be helpful and that I felt comfortable having her do. Today she was home with V. After a few days away from home and his work, he had things to do so spent most of the day in his office working and just turned her loose on the house to do what she wanted.
Let's just say that if I hear the phrase "I did _______ for you today because I know you're so busy and can't keep up the way you should" one more time I may scream. The _______ could be filled with washed the boys bedding, swept the basement floor or folded laundry (I had to resort them as they were not even close to being sorted right- and I refolded my work clothes- I'm pretty particular about them). Am I grateful that all these tasks got done- yes- and I'm trying to be gracious. I just don't think she realizes quite how what she is saying sounds to me. To me (and I know this is my own insecurities talking) she is challenging my competence as a homemaker and parent. Am I a spotless housekeeper- not at all- I know that. My house is lived in and somewhat cluttered, and mostly still under construction- and at this time of year, I AM busy, so some things slide. And with teenagers and pets it is a continual challenge to keep up with things. But- really..... what a slap in the face.
She was even complaining about the canning jars on the kitchen counter. Too bad- it's that time of year and I've got tomato sauce on the stove.
Thanks for listening- I think I'll go have that drink now.