Thursday, June 30, 2011


It has been a long, emotionally draining day.  I didn't manage to get up to see Roger before surgery- today was really busy at work.  But I did get to spend a little time with Sharon, his wife, not long after she had met with the surgeons to learn the outcome.   Sadly,  none of Roger's foot was salvageable.  He ended up with an amputation about mid calf.  Sharon was looking shell shocked.  They had known that this was a possibility but had hoped for the best. She is feeling totally overwhelmed.  Unfortunately, there is little I can do to make things better.  They had relied mostly on Roger's income and with him not working, even before she got laid off her job, it was a struggle to make ends meet.  She is panicking that they may need to move (they live in a split foyer home) but I urged her to wait to see how he progresses in rehab before she makes any rash decisions.  And even after the amputation, they still have the cancer diagnosis to deal with- which hasn't really even been addressed.
It looks like the weekend is shaping up for better weather than I had hoped.  So, I think, we plan to go to their house, as a family, on Monday morning to weed the garden.  Anyone in the IC area interested in a charity weed, let me know- we would be glad of the help.
It about broke my heart when Sharon was going on about needing the food from the garden, especially if she can't find a decent job.   She was asking about drying tomatoes and if they would store that way, or if she could freeze them.  Roger is the gardener and canner in the family and she is feeling a bit out of her element-- but realizing just how important that stored food has been in their lives in the past. I did volunteer to come help with canning tomatoes if they need it.  I'm not sure how I'll be able to do that- can my produce as well as theirs- but I'll give it my best shot if necessary.
But on a brighter note- I picked the first handful of black raspberries this evening.  They didn't last long enough to make it into the house to be photographed.  V and I shared them outside in the heat.
Yes- it finally feels like summer!!  It made it over 90 today!! and mid 90's tomorrow... with high humidity, of course- it wouldn't be summer without it.  Not much work got done outside this evening with the weather.  However, I14 has decided he wants to earn some money.  So, tomorrow morning, he is going to weed the iris bed for me.  He's figured out that he needs to work for 3 hours to have enough money to buy a game that he wants. Definitely doable in his  eyes.
I feel like I've been a bit of a downer these past few days.  I'll try to be more upbeat in the future- I'm just beat.


  1. So sorry for Roger and his wife! Is there anything we can do to help them? Are they associated with a faith organization or something else like that? You haven't been on a downer at all, sad things are happening around you and I am glad you are sharing them with us. Big hugs. x

  2. You probably are tired Judy, I know I am. It's just that time of year.

    Don't forget to be nice to you....sending prayers for Roger and Sharon...

  3. What sad news. I do hope that others will rally with you to give them a hand. It makes one stop and count their blessings. And they are blessed to have friends such as you. Sending loving thoughts to Roger and Sharon - and to you and your family.

  4. Was very sorry to hear they couldn't save Roger's foot. It will be quite an adjustment I'm sure. Is there a chance Sharon can get another job when Roger gets setteled? It's such a sad situation. Sending healing prayers their way. ...debbie

  5. So sorry to hear about your friend. My MIL suffered both leg amputations at 58, within a year she was walking and now works 4 hours a day. I hope his cancer can be addressed soon. Sounds like maybe paying your son to do some of their gardening would be helpful. I am thinking of you and his family, never apologize for being down, blogs are suppose to be a picture into ones life and you are providing that.

  6. Don't feel you need to apologize for anything! Your plate is full and heavy right now and I, personally, think it helps to "get it all out" here on our blogs.

    Sending healing wishes for your dear friends Roger and Sharon. This is a very hard time for them. Hopefully, things will be looking up shortly.

  7. Sorry things have been so hectic for you, and for Roger's pain. I have no doubt you will be able to help with their garden preserving, it seems an impossible task since our own gardens consume us, but I bet you will come up with a way to do it! You definitely need to keep on venting here, stress like that is difficult to deal with and can consume you if you don't vent. Best wishes for a good weekend.

  8. Sometimes the best we can do is just keep moving forward. I wish Monday was a holiday for me - have to go make those meds for the kiddos - or I'd give some time! Let us know if there are future weeding for Roger days!


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